"All we do is think about the feelings that we are hiding"
Do you ever notice that once you have an argument with a someone close to you, something goes wrong at work, your kids get into trouble at school or something far worse, your mind tends to replay the situation over and over, you wonder what you did wrong? Or you may end up with all these feelings of fear, stress, anxiety and can't seem to shift your mind to anything else.
This is just the way our brains are wired.
Negativity tends to ALWAYS be around whether we want it there or not and through personal development I have learned how to address it and break the mental negativity loop.
Here are a few tips that I have learned:
1.Practice Gratitude
One of the fastest ways to get the negative thoughts out of your head is to take note of all the GOOD that is around you and all that you have to be grateful for. If you tell me that you have nothing to be thankful for I beg to differ. Are you breathing right now? Are you able to read this? Have you eaten anything in the last 24hrs? Gratitude activates a TON of benefits in your brain!
2. Slow Down, Breathe Deep
People can get so stressed out and worry about almost everything. Most of the time they go from one thing to the next without even slowing down to get ready for the next thing and just end up piling stress upon stress. Because of this you may make rash decisions because you can't think clearly. When you feel this happening take slow deep breaths. Oxygen helps and you would be surprised at how such a simple thing can make you feel so much better.
3. Look For the Good
For example if your kids are having trouble in school and you are worrying it's a good thing because it means you deeply care. Try focusing on the emotion behind that worry (the love for your children, the desire to have the best for them) without inviting any negative thought. You are great parents and you are doing the best you can!
4. Is There a Theme?
Human minds are wired for repetitive thoughts. So if something similar happens that has happened before you will have repetitive thoughts and emotions. We are creatures of habit and it is hard to break those habits but it can be done!
Check out this book for creating habits if that is something holding you back : The Power Of Habit.
Each time you find yourself thinking these negative thoughts replace them with a positive mantra like: "Everything is happening for a reason." "I will trust this process"
5. Use Your Imagination
The same area of the brain is activated when we experience everything for real and when we imagine something vividly. Using the power of our imaginations can help us soothe our brains when worry and stress has us down in the dumps. Most of the time we can't change the current situations as fast as we would like, the process of imagination can help create real changes in our lives.
However, we must accept that we can not control everything. We can let that drive us crazy or just be happy with the things we can control which is our feelings.
YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF YOUR LIFE. IF YOU BELIEVE IT. IT CAN COME TRUE.